On the Bus

I jumped on the Bus with my son today to drop him off at Ms Marva, and I began to realize that the Bus and its inhabitances had become a part of me. I spoke to the driver and smiled at the older lady and she reciprocated. Everyone knew my routine and they expected to see me and my son. As people got on the bus, I began to speak to people and smile and make small talk. I even had a lady of to give me the “eye”. J
There was a man on the bus who was offended by a older lady coughing. Because of the coughing, He opened the bus window and exposed the elderly woman to the crisp morning air. She asked him to close it. He got upset and went off on her, because of the coughing and the fact that her English was thick because of her heavy accent!. Everyone look at him (including myself) with disapproval and concern. I think that our distaste for his manners affected him so badly, that he got off the bus at the next available stop. Now I understand his concern for her coughing, but disrespecting an elder is not acceptable. He should know and understand that completely.
Now after the bus ride, I got on the metro and I smiled at the same familiar faces and spoke to the same people in Vienna. I thought to myself, “Wow all of these people are a part of my life and they affect me and I affect them. A smile from them can put me in a good mood and vice versa. When you feel like you are alone. Something reminds you your presence in the world

Journey to Enlightenment

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Over the past several weeks, I have been doing quite a bit of philosophical and spiritual studies. I am reading to provide insight into God’s purpose for me and my family.

I was born into Christianity and I came up in a church that CLAIM TO TEACH the “naked truth.” The “naked truth” according to this Church was raw without sugar coats. This organization was a hell fire and brimstone Holiness Church. Unfortunately this brand of the so called “truth” left me empty, unfulfilled and hopeless.

As an 8 year old boy, my heart desire was to feel the God as others did. I have now become conscious and I will not fake my beliefs nor will I put on a show, but as God manifest himself to me and through me, I will share my gift with you.

I have now realized that God did not define us as Christians, Muslim, Buddhist or etc.., but humans have provided these titles and the religious bigotry. I believe that God’s truth is constant and true always. It does not matter what label is attached to it, or who proclaims it. It is still truth.

So with that in mind I officially become a student of God and his Truth. I will only follow his design. I will not be bounded by any belief system that promotes closed-mindedness, violence, bigotry, intolerance.

I believe that God has manifested himself through his son. I believe that Christ is the Son of God.

I am reading others such as Buddha, Mohammad, and Pantanjali as a part of my studies.

I plan to update my blog from time to time as I continue my Journey to Enlightenment.

John 5:39
Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me.

A Day with Achebe

Can A Married Man Flirt?

 

                                                I had an interesting conversation with a friend yesterday. We spoke about flirting and its inappropriateness, especially when it comes from a committed or married person. My argument was if flirtation was meant only in kindness or jest then it should be acceptable. Her rebuttal was if it was not something that you could say in from of your wife then it was not appropriate. I assured her that I would not cross the line into forbidden territory. I do not insinuate a desire for sex nor ask for sex. I have too much Love and I am not going to disrespect my wife, family, friends or strangers.

I have to admit that I was a little offended, only because I always thought she knew that my comments are always mere playfulness and designed to foster good moods and smiles nothing more or less.

After the conversation I called MY WIFE and she was the one who explained me to me. 

I asked do you think I would cheat on you and she respond no, she did not believe that. She asked why and I explained the conversation between my friend and me. This is what she told me. She said YES you do flirt with women and what you may consider kindness or simple flirtation can be misinterpreted by a woman. She may feel that you are insinuating more. At that point, I understood exactly what she meant, but I figure that my female friends knew the line I did not cross.

I have always understood that most women enjoy compliments and a little flirting as long as it did not cross the line and turn to disrespect. I have always been known (or so I thought) to be the guy that you (male or female) could count on to help without a hidden agenda. Now before the angels come down and place the glowing halo on my head, I want to say that I am very much a man. I find women attractive. Physically attractive, sexually attractive, and some not at all, BUT I believe that being a 100% man means that you have self-control and smarts.

I believe that:

· Sexual attraction is natural and I embrace that, but I am not ruled by my penis. I rule it.

· My family deserves Love and stability. My wife and kids deserve a man who will work to keep our family united, safe, secure and loved. We do not need another set of young black males being raised with the father outside of the house.

· I do not put myself in any situation that will allow me to compromise my principles.

· It does not matter what the woman does, ultimately the decision to act is mine!

Note: I also know that many people have been approached all their lives by individuals who always have a hidden agenda, so when someone like me comes along, it is only natural to think that there is an ulterior motive.

Lastly, I have to admit there is a little selfish motive to my actions. When I take the time to compliment someone, ask how they are doing, or mention something to make them smile, it makes me feel great! I LOVE it. When I can make anyone smile or laugh. I get a joy, a sort of high from the fact that I was able to impact them in a positive way. I know it may sound a little hokey or contrive, but try it. Smile all day and compliment, help, and make people laugh or smile. I know you will feel great at the end of the day.

Restore Your Love

When was the last time you thought about what you wanted? More importantly when was the last time you pursued your desires? Most people dream about being happy, but they have no discipline and commitment to obtain it. I say this because I fight the same things that everyone fights. No one is alone in the quest for happiness.

These suggestions have helped me find the means to restore my love. I will share it with you. If any of it can help you, please use it.

The things I am going to suggest will take some getting used to, but they are necessary in order to move forward.

My suggestions will move you in a different direction and it will help you achieve your goals and dreams. In order to see the results try this for 30- 45 days and then revaluate your situation.

My Restoration Suggestions.

Give Up and allow God to do what he does best! Guide you!

1. Forgive yourself and learn your own worth. Only your self worth is important at this point. Remember the scripture, "The blind can not lead the blind less they both fall in the ditch." When you are stronger you will help others.

2. Anyone in your life that is poisonous to you or your peace get rid of them now. Do not write, talk or visit them at all. Do not let them visit you.

3. Have a dismissive attitude toward negativity. Do not react to it in a negative way. Remember you always have a choice to get mad or dismiss stupidity.

4. Begin an exercise regiment 3 times a week. You may want to try Mondays, Wednesday and Fridays for at least 30 minutes. Slowly increase the exercise time to 45 minutes or an hour.

5. You have to change your eating habits. What you eat plays a tremendous role in how you feel. White sugars are bad for the body.

When you eat sugars, the body works hard to bring you down off the sugar high. The body is so busy working on that it can no protect you fully from illness (you immune system gets lower) Here is a good comparison. Every time you eat candy, pastries and cakes Etc.., it is like taking shots of liquor. The body is fighting the sugar just like it fights the alcohol when you drink.

6. No more fast food! You must try to eat at the same times daily. The meals must consist of 3 regular meals and two snacks. Watch your serving size. The first week of eating will be the hardest, but I promise you by week two it will be easier. No white sugars or sweet treats. If you get a sweet tooth eat fruit!

7. Write on your Blog as much as possible. Express your true feeling and how your day went. This is important; because this will be the way you can look back and see progress.

8. Do 30 minutes of "personal time daily" Personal Time consists of you meditating and sitting still thinking about the present. Do not think about the future or the pass. Allow your mind to focus on you (not what you need to do or what you did). This time should be done in the morning or before bed.

9. No sex for a month- If bad relationships continue to occur in your life, then this is necessary. You are picking or drawing the wrong people to you. Your vibe is polluted and does not represent your true self. Your vibe may be the vibe of self-doubt, desperateness, loneliness, and fear. So if bad relationships are your "weakness," Sex only complicates it and clouds your judgment. You have to make yourself happy before you can share that happiness with anyone else.

10. No alcohol- same as sex- alcohol clouds your judgment

11. No Dates

Goals-

• Write down your goals and how you plan to accomplish them

• Begin your exercise and meditation (Personal Time).

• Begin your new eating regiment. (No sweets or white sugars)

• Join an online community and chat and blog. Do not do romantic chats. Look for someone who is on the same road as you. You need some one who understands.

• I love yoga. Try to find a yoga school in your area. You may find it satisfying.

Nyrere vs. The Volcano

 

Nyrere vs. The Volcano

My son Nyrere and I decided to do this little project this summer. He brought me along for this little ride and I decided to share this with everyone. He is my aspiring scientist. He dibbles in quite a few science based subjects. He enjoys rock collecting, botany, and studying insects. I suppose my boys as much as possible.

Please enjoy our experiment.